Piercing the Illusion of Relationships

Jay Schryer is an online friend I have known through Facebook for several years now. I have always enjoyed his insights and unique take on “reality”. Today he posted what I think is at the essence of relationships. Even though I was once married for 12 years I have never actually gone all the way to piercing the illusion then going on to enjoy the fruits of the labor. My life was never meant to go that direction. I do, though, see the truth in what he writes here through watching my sons who have both gone all the way to beautiful lasting relationships. Thank you Jay, for agreeing to being a guest blogger here.

 

In the beginning, all relationships are illusion.

The illusion of who he thinks she is, and the illusion of who she thinks he is. The illusion of who she wants him to think she is, and the illusion of who he wants her to think he is. His best foot forward, her best foot forward, and both of them dancing to the twin tunes of expectations and projections. “I believe you are *this*, will you please see me as *that*?” “If you ignore *this*, I’ll ignore *that*, and we can perpetuate this illusion until our facades crack and the walls come tumblin (crumblin tumblin) down.”

It’s only then, after the walls have crumbled and the illusions have been pierced, that true knowing can begin. When the projections of perfection have shattered and revealed the broken messes inside, and when the shadows have eclipsed the egos, spilling out the “mama never loved me”s and the “daddy was never there for me”s; hot buttons of trigger words and raw pain.

Then (and only then) can true love begin to flow through the broken pieces, healing and restoring, strengthening and straightening the inner disasters that fill each of us, thereby pouring a solid foundation for the future.

JayFBphotoJay Schryer tells stories, and some of them are even true. When he’s not creating new worlds of science fiction and fantasy, he blogs about the intersection of spirituality and “real” life at http://jayschryer.com.

All is well

In fact all is perfect!

I know, War & Peace and all that. Well, like insecure teenage girls who need to have love proven to them over and over by behaving badly, always testing your unconditional love for them, we humans have to keep playing at that same game in hopes that The Infinite Being will come to us and PROVE that we are indeed loved. We can’t actually believe in our innate belonging so we behave badly over and over to prove to ourselves there IS universal unconditional love. Just as I can’t convince a teenage girl she is loved unconditionally, the universe can not prove its unconditional love of all that is. It is something the girl and the human race must finally come to “know” on their own.

So my wish for humanity is to understand that we innately belong, just as say, the ant and the lion and the rock and the tree, and nothing we can do can change that. Once we tumble to this, there are no problems – maybe little inconveniences, due to trying to fit into a body, but no biggies. We live, we die, we come to understanding. You can rest easy at night knowing that eternity and all within all is home.

P.S. Nothing against teenage girls in particular – it’s just that they are among the very best at acting out the scenario I present here. It happens all the time across all demographics.

I Am

Sitting here in timeless time
Nothing matters at all
All there is is is-ness

The refrigerator cycles on and off
Outside a child screams in play
I clean a spot off the floor and dust a bit and things get done
I read and walk and eat and breathe and see and listen

I am totally satisfied with all of it
It-ness – Is-ness

I seek nothing
Not purpose
Not meaning
No thing
Nothing

My heart is full
I love – just love
I love no thing
No person
No ideal
Nothing that has a name
I just love

I am

Hearts Journey

As a teacher of animal communication the greatest sense of satisfaction I get is when I see people start out on a journey of the heart, working with animals at a new level and carrying on to discover themselves anew moment by moment. This is a gift our fellow creatures give us, the heart connection, and it leads us to a truer sense of ourselves.

It is such a joy and privilege to work with animals and nature as a sort of midwife to a new consciousness. This is bigger than Dr. Doolittle. This is the journey of a lifetime.

So what is animal communication? Talk telepathically to our furry friends and find out what kind of food they prefer and where they want to sleep and why they are peeing on the carpet? Well as an animal communicator I do a bit of that. Mostly what I do though is act as a translator between nature and humanity. Phew. What does that mean!

At this point in our journey on planet earth we have some forks in the road that are important to our continuation here. We either awaken to our role as a creator species or we just keep driving down that ever shortening road to oblivion. Look around. Which way do you see us going?

Nature has always been here in support of our lives as a creator species. While you may think Mother Nature is fed up with our performance in that realm, and with good reason, that is not quite the case. Nature continues to support our lives in every way possible even though we make that harder all the time. Now all of nature is coming together to tell us, as loudly and clearly as possible, that we need to become a conscious species or perish. We can see it all around us but the powers that be don’t see a profit in paying attention. So the question is, what to do.

Our animal companions are perhaps the ones who can make the biggest difference in our perspective. They live with us. Even with those of us who are making big profits despoiling the planet. They love us unconditionally. That prompts us to love them unconditionally. How many other relationships do we have where that is the case? So our animals already offer us that. They also give us the possibility of experiencing unconditional love beyond our relationships with them. Simply by making it a reality in this one relationship they are showing us that while it may appear to be unlikely, it may still be possible to achieve mutual unconditional love elsewhere. How big is that gift? Well I’d rather get that than some gaudy diamond bracelet.

So already our companion animals are giving us so much without saying a word! Do we appreciate it? Sometimes. Enough? Well, has your love ever gone unappreciated? Love is never appreciated enough. But that is what our animals are out to change! If they thought of it as we would, it would be as if nature had deployed specially trained spies to infiltrate the very substance of the lives of the enemy.

They don’t think of it that way (they love us, all of nature loves us) but that is the gist of what is happening. Nature has planted a possible solution to human destruction right in the beds (quite literally in many cases) of the destroyers. These troops are deployed by REAL intelligence.

So back to animal communication. Let’s say someone calls me and says, “my cat has this problem and that problem and it is really getting to be a problem!” Well, good for the cat! In most cases you don’t need to even call me if you are able to take a look at your cat as if she were a mirror to your own problems or blind spots then interpret the signs. But you most likely don’t or are unable to see it that way YET. So you call me. I talk to the cat and the cat tells me her problems and I talk to you and tell you the cats problems and you say, “Oh my God! I do that!” or “that’s how I feel!” or something to that effect. Now do you see what you’ve got? Have you ever noticed how wonderfully inspiring a problem can be once you see where it is pointing you? That’s what your cat can show you! So what am I good for? I polish the mirror. It’s a little hard to see yourself in this mirror right now (getting easier with time and happening faster all the time) so I give it the spit and polish it needs for you to see the gift your animal is giving through it’s unacceptable behavior.

So now you are really convinced you don’t want to call me! Who the hell needs that. Well we all do. To see the story of the gift my Alfie gave me through this process go to Best Friend Best Teacher. We all need to become conscious of what we are creating in our lives and our companion animals we love so dearly are showing us how our own actions effect our own world, our own reality and how it effects all that is.

Nature’s conspiracy. Effective too. People are listening more all the time whether they call an animal communicator or not. People are “getting it” from their pets and more and more from the other creatures in their lives and in our world. Nature is conspiring to help us save ourselves and I am so grateful and feel very privileged to be a part of that conspiracy!

Now for my disclaimer. Sometimes the cat is just a brat.

P.S. If you would like to start your own Journey of the Heart you might like to start with my Introductory E-Book.

Cowboys & Indians

After a scene with my neighbor in which he threatened to kill my dog, I was reminded again, after some inner work about it, that we are all just here to help each other to play this game we play. The stuff and people and situations that seem bad are only that by our own judgment. Same with the good stuff — just a judgment — and we know in the midst of judging something good or bad that the judgment is false. But we ignore that little voice that is saying, “you are just pretending this” and we generally go ahead and act on the pretense. At the end of the day it’s all just cowboys and Indians. What a hoot!