Everyone seems to be looking for that right person to share their life with. Always seeking never finding, that ongoing human condition, often has to do with feeling left out in the love department. I think the dilemma lies in wanting love rather than wanting to give love. What if someone told you that if you want someone in your life at all you had to be the giver of love, not the receiver? Would you still be rigorously looking for that right person? Might slow you down a bit don’t you think? Yet we do know, in our heart of hearts, that our fullest heart comes from loving, not from being loved.
Why is it then we continue to make it all an exercise in accounting? Before the relationship there is the list of must haves and after the relationship gets going it is the comparison list; I did this and this and this and gave this and that and the other thing and you have given this little minuscule thing that I didn’t want in the first place!
Here is a thought. What if we just go out every day wanting to give love rather than wanting it directed at ourselves? What if loving (giving it) became sort of a habit? What if we just let it flow from us and enjoyed that feeling of wholeheartedness? What if…